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“Like a mermaid, I fear shallow living, not death.”

Fancy seeing you here! I am 24 years old and currently completing a MSc. in Psychology.

I developed my interest in psychology and self-improvement by trying to figure my own problems out and find direction in life.

I know what it’s like to see no way out of despair but I also know what it’s like to pull yourself out of it.

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Experiencing a difficult upbringing created my relentless desire to understand where inner peace and the ability to thrive comes from. …

It’s time to deconstruct before I reconstruct

Disclosure: I am completing an MSc. in Psychology.

“The illiterate of the 21st Century won’t be those who cannot read and write; but those who cannot learn, unlearn and relearn.” — Alvin Toffler

There comes a point when learning becomes another form of escapism.

Granted it might be a constructive way to spend my time, it distracts me from questioning what I already know.

In the spare time I’ve had recently, I’ve cleared out the cobwebs in my mind.

Beliefs that have gone stale, I’m proud to be unlearning.

Here is what unfolded.

1. Being specific is always preferred.

A downside of being in tune with…

Making your potential real can be learned

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Disclosure: I specialize in Human Potential for my MSc. in Psychology.

According to Abraham Maslow’s research, 98% of adults won’t meet their potential in life. I was part of that statistic when I was a passenger in life, not the driver.

“I’ll worry about that later, let’s just see what happens” was my only compass.

Life would continue on auto-pilot until I made a conscious decision otherwise.

Though going with the flow can be useful when pursuing a goal, not steering in the direction of your dreams is a deathbed regret.

An alternative…

Using only pen and paper

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Disclosure: I am not a licensed therapist, but I have experience of the concept through my MSc. in Psychology and lived experience.

Without awareness of our shadow and how it can unconsciously run our lives, we confuse our behaviors for who we are. — Carl Jung, 1930

I could be competent, kind, caring, and compassionate, but when lost in my triggers and reactions, the only thing visible is how I’m struggling.

I had to dig deep inside myself and acknowledge my shadow in order to move past my struggles. …

Doing Carl Jung’s shadow work gives life-altering insight

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Disclosure: I am not a licensed therapist, but I have experience of the concept through my MSc. in Psychology and lived experience.

Negative feelings rarely go away because you want them to. They often don’t vanish because you’re not getting to the root of what’s causing them.

You can however break destructive cycles of thoughts and behaviors through shadow work.

This post covers how to do it and part two details my experience.

What is shadow work?

“Sometimes we need to go into our darkness to shine our greatest light.”

Famed psychiatrist, Carl Jung, is credited…

How I am keeping my standards high whilst dropping my perfectionism

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The best thing to happen to me recently was when my computer died, and I lost 12,000 words.

The document was only supposed to be 2,000 words, and I had been at it for over a week. Each word I added prolonged its editing but I felt like I could not stop.

Until I was forced to stop when it was deleted.

For the first time, I could see what perfectionism was doing to me. An immense pressure lifted as I was forced to rethink my approach. …

Katie Boland

Even an upward spiral has a rock bottom. MSc. Psychology student passionate about mental wealth.

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